Most men hesitate. It’s natural — something in us resists change, even change we want. Here are honest answers to the questions we hear most.
“It costs too much.”
Fair question. Weigh it against what another year stuck in the same place is costing you — in your relationships, your work, your health. The fee covers a fully catered, staffed residential weekend run by a charitable trust, not for profit. If money is the only thing in the way, talk to us — we don’t want cost to stop a man who’s ready.
“Is this therapy?”
No. The NWTA is peer support — men helping men. It can sit alongside therapy well, but it isn’t a substitute for professional care. Many men do both.
“Is it safe? What if I’m struggling mentally?”
Safety comes first, always — you’re in charge of how deep you go, and confidentiality is strict. If you’re in an active mental-health crisis or early in recovery, we’ll gently suggest getting professional support in place first. We’ll be here when you’re ready. In crisis now? Call or text 1737 anytime.
“Is it a cult or a pyramid scheme?”
No. ManKind Project Aotearoa is a registered New Zealand charitable trust. The men who staff the weekends are volunteers who’ve done the work themselves. There’s nothing to sell you.
“I’m too old / too young / too anything.”
Men from 18 to their 80s do this work; most are somewhere between 22 and 60. Every walk of life, every kind of man. If you’re a man, there’s a place for you.
“Is it religious?”
No. The NWTA isn’t affiliated with any religion or political movement. Men of all faiths and none are welcome, and no belief is required or promoted.
“I’m gay or bi — is there room for me?”
Yes — explicitly and warmly. Gay, bisexual and straight men do this work side by side. You belong here.
“Will it actually stick?”
The weekend opens the door. The lasting change happens in the I-Groups — circles of men who keep meeting, keep each other honest, and keep growing long after the weekend ends.